Days are getting longer, winter will soon be gone and forgotten. With the first sunny days, your kids want to wander outside and they’re right! How can you let them enjoy the free time and keep your peace of mind?
Kids and freedom: there’s a right age for everything!
“Can I go to Paul’s house?”
“Can I take a bike ride with Elsa and Alice?”
“Can I walk to judo practice on my own? It’s still light out!”
Sooner or later, these questions arise and the usual “You’re too young, let’s talk about this next year/after your birthday” argument doesn’t really work with your kids anymore!
Each parent has its own view on this, but child psychiatrists and specialists agree on the fact that children start being autonomous around the age of 10. The walks should be fairly short and familiar, in small and well delimited areas. It doesn’t make a real difference whether you live in a city or in a more rural area: you’re aware of the most common dangers (traffic, state of the roads, natural risks and presence of strangers…). But of course, even if you know the risks in theory, it doesn’t prevent your children from getting in trouble…
Another limit to the acquisition of autonomy is… in the parents’ heads! Your little babies have grown: how long has it been since they’ve held your hand in the streets? Do they walk to their grandparents’ house, 800 meters away, on their own? Do they go to the bakery alone, “just like a grown-up”? If you overprotect your children, you might make them overly afraid of the outside world. Also, they’ll soon realize that their friends are not necessarily educated the same way… The quest for freedom is universal!
How to manage freedom with your children?
As days get longer, the timing is right to test your children’s autonomy, but also their ability to follow rules. The most useful device is the watch: it’s essential that your children know what time it is. When they go off for a walk or go play with their buddies, agree on a time when they must be back home. Don’t hesitate to require strict adherence to the hours: your “almost grown-up” children must be aware that earning your trust will help them gain more autonomy…
When it comes to making the trip to their sports practice or to a friend’s house, make sure you define the itinerary together: make your children walk through streets that are lit at night, with stores and commercial activity if possible, you’ll feel better and they will too!
Still a bit concerned about letting your kids go about on their own? Let them play in your building courtyard or in a park close by: you will keep an eye on them discreetly (if you can) and set up a Weenect Kids GPS tracker, that will allow them to call you in case of trouble. Short outings in a close area will allow you to evaluate your children’s behavior when you’re not around. It’s also a good solution if you’re concerned about peer pressure and that your kids are impressionable.
Someday you will have to cut the cord! It sounds trivial but it’s true: children naturally learn to live without their parents and be independent. You can help them through this process by getting them a Weenect Kids GPS tracker, a perfect alternative to the mobile phone if they’re still too young! You can peacefully let them fly with their own wings…