In our society, confidence is a major asset. As parents, you want your kids to bloom and find happiness. Therefore, you may feel a little disconcerted when you notice that your little one is shy and fearful. However, provided that you do a bit of introspection, you can be of great help for your kid to improve his self-image. Here is our advice to support your children in their quest for self-confidence.
Admit that you’re a role model for your kid
As a parent, you must set an example. Kids are very observant and easily influenced in their behavior. Therefore, if you have low self-esteem, it won’t be easy for them to reverse the trend.
- Work on your own self-esteem
- How you see failure
Failure is seen as a burden, a difficult experience that it is hard to rise from. It damages your self-esteem. Yet people learn a lot from failure. It is an opportunity to take a step back and analyze a situation, draw knowledge from it, and do better the next time.
- Be tenacious and show persistence
We, the parents, know that we’ll succeed – because we have confidence. When we face an obstacle or a hitch, we adapt and keep moving. Taking up challenges allows to strengthen self-esteem – and our children see that.
- Change the way we see our kids
- Get rid of your expectations
We project a lot of expectations on our children, whether we do it consciously or not. We expect them to be perfect, according to our own criteria. We want them to be nice and well-behaved, get good grades at school, be the best player in the soccer team… But our little ones can’t always match our expectations perfectly. It’ll make them feel like they’re not good enough and bring down their self-esteem. Let them be themselves, it’s what they are best at.
- Our role as a parent: give love
Let’s comfort our little ones on this question: we will always love them, no matter what happens. A parent’s love is not subject to success, failure, highs and lows. And being loved is an unbeatable weapon to develop and boost self-confidence.
- Pay attention to your words
- The use of the verb “be”
Sometimes, in the grip of anger, you may blame your children, tell them they’re not enough this or that. But a person is not defined by an isolated action.
- The impact of positive speech
Highlight the positive things in your kids’ behavior. It’ll encourage them and build their self-esteem.
- The consequences of judgment
Avoid judgement and comparisons as much as possible. Competition doesn’t help self-confidence.
Develop their autonomy with trust
- Praise your child as an individual
Our kids are fully-fledged individuals. Considering them as such will help them develop a positive sense of self. Point out their qualities and the efforts they make to be good. Include them in daily decisions by taking their opinion into account. Listen and acknowledge their emotions. If a child feels respected and valued, he/she will gain self-esteem.
- Make them autonomous in their quest for confidence
It is important that your children don’t get all of their self-esteem from you. To help them gain confidence, let them come and go on their own. Depending on their age, you can let them walk to a neighbor’s house or to the local bakery, for instance. Use a Weenect GPS tracker to ease everybody’s mind. Value the path travelled rather that the result of a completed project. If you see your children struggle on a difficulty, help them find the solution with their own resources. It’ll bring them to think for themselves – and take pride in it.