There are more than 1.5 million elderly persons in France who are dependent and require home support. When the situation becomes critical, it may be difficult for a senior to accept other people interfering in their daily life! What can you do when a senior relative refuses the help?
What kind of assistance for what kind of situation?
When a person’s physical and/or mental health requires assistance in their daily life, the first solution that comes to mind is to get domestic help. It also suits most seniors, whose first wish is to remain at home for as long as possible.
The first persons sought for are the senior’s close relatives (especially their children); in France, statistics say that 1 person out of 5 is a “family caregiver”.
Run errands, clean the house, help with the daily routine (getting dressed, going up the stairs, getting ready for bed): all these tasks require assistance, that a relative can provide. They are typical signs of aging that all seniors experience. Sometimes those problems become more serious and prevent the person from leading a normal life. That’s when professional help becomes necessary. For example, when the senior loses the ability to move by him/herself, or when a psychological disorder (such as Alzheimer’s disease) entails new risks. Professional caregivers, doctors and paramedical staff can then be a necessary option.
Get a senior used to the idea of home assistance
However necessary, outside help may not be well-received.
There can be various explanations for this: maybe they don’t want to be a burden to their children; or maybe, they might experience it as a regression and suffer from that loss of control over their life decisions.
It can even be more complicated when it comes to bringing outside professionals into the equation…
The first thing to keep in mind is that dialogue is key. You will not get a refractory senior’s approval by imposing a new life and care organization on him/her.
Approach the topic with simplicity, insist on the question of safety and how you’re concerned about potential accidents. Weigh on the fact that home care (provided by a family member or a professional) will allow the senior to remain at home longer.
What is also important is to define, together with the senior, tasks that require assistance. For those who suffer from an impaired judgement, you ought to be even more forward-looking. No need to panic however: professional caregivers are used to dealing with seniors with this type of condition.
Whatever your situation is, you should leave room for the senior to have a say over their life decisions. He/she should be the one deciding which daily tasks he/she is still willing to perform. Don’t forget that you can request a trial period with any professional caregiver: it’ll help you pick out the best solution.
Finally, make sure their doctor is involved in the decision-making process. His/her opinion may help the senior deal with the situation. It can also be helpful to bring together your doctor and the home care staff so that they can share any useful information about the senior’s global health state. To sum up: any person that is trustworthy to your senior relative can be usefully brought into the coversation. And in any case, get a Weenect Silver GPS tracker to make your elderly relative’s daily life safer! He/she will then be able to get in touch with a caregiver or be found if he/she gets lost. A real asset to help a senior stay at home longer!80% of seniors wish to age at home, as long as possible. Click To Tweet